Last night I had a sweet moment with my 7 year old daughter.
Just before it was time to say her night time prayers she asked me to come into her room to talk to her. She sat down on her bed and asked me, "How can I make a wrong choice right?"
I asked her what choice she had made. She then started crying, and through her tears explained that the last 3 days of art class her best friend wouldn't sit next to her or have anything to do with her during the class. This made my daughter so mad and hurt she called her best friend a bad name. She started sobbing even more. I let her sit there until she was ready to continue the story.
When she had calmed down enough to continue she explained that she knew she had made a wrong choice and had gone to her best friend and apologized. I gave her a big hug but before I could say anything she said, "mom she forgave me, so why do I still feel so bad?"
This completely melted my heart. I reinforced to her that her steps in making her wrong choice better were exactly what she was supposed to do, and if her friend had forgiven her then her Heavenly Father had too.
That didn't help her at all. Then it hit me, forgiving ourselves for our own mistakes is the hardest thing to do. I know that many times over my life I have been forgiven by others and also felt forgiveness from the Lord, but have had a hard time letting myself "off the hook". I tried to explain that to her in the best 7 year old terms I could. I didn't know if she understood me so I suggest that we pray to Heavenly Father about it. She agreed and asked me to offer the prayer.
It was one of the sweetest experience that I have had with prayer with one of my children. It was if I knew what Heavenly Father wanted me to say to help her have comfort. There was such a love and peacefulness in the room. When I finished she gave me a very long and warm hug. I knew she was feeling what I was, peace and love and forgiveness from our Father in Heaven.
I am not only grateful for prayer and forgiveness, but also for that special moment in time where my daughter and I connected so deeply. I will treasure that moment for the rest of my life.